Compromise
Without question, everyone who has been in a relationship or is planning to enter into one has been given keys to living in an effective partnership. These espoused truths to success usually involve communication, independence and compromise. Communication and independence are keys to relationship doors that will be unlocked in my book. In the meantime, concessions will have to be made to compromise.
Compromising in most people's mind infers mutual concessions, but yawl know the deal. Stop lying to yourself and those who look to you for comfort and advice. Regardless of gender, even though I would submit that women give in more than men, concessions are made often at your job, in your home, with your friends and family regularly. Frankly, having the propensity to fallback to fight another day is a mature, adult thing to do. So, why do people need sugar coating with this matter?
Just to be clear, I am not talking about abuse, domination, or forcing someone to do something that they do not want to do. On the contrary, what I do declare is that when people compromise, they are at times giving up their rights for no sound reason at all.
Anyone who is honest with themselves can recall those moments when you avowed not to take any more of his shit! Giving in tends to turn into giving up which leads to getting out. And by that time whether one physically leaves the premises or not, the love is gone, your sense of self has been depleted, and your responses to common questions become venomous.
Question: Honey, can we go to Circuit City before or after you go shopping?
Response: Why in the hell do we always have to do what you want me to do? Go to the store your damn self... You think... And another thing...
Simple conversations become battle grounds for independence, respect, and cooperation. Respect is all but thrown out the window. And the willingness to play in situations you know you are not supposed to be playing in becomes a bit more enticing.
Aware that there is a thin line between being in a relationship and living in one, (with yourself and your partner) there has got to be a better way to communicate feelings and emotions. Compromising seemingly is a safe ground for couples to express feelings, listen to each other, and marinate over the options that are best for all parties involved. YEAH RIGHT???
This weapon of mass construction was referenced heavily in my relationship survey. When respondents (male and female) were asked "What gender is most dominate in terms of compromising,” 52% said women, 16.5% men, and 30.5% believed both genders compromise equally.
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